Three powerful questions to coach yourself with this Ramadan
- 13 May 2019
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Ramadan is a unique opportunity for personal growth and transformation. It creates an ideal environment for anyone to push themselves towards their next best version spiritually, physically, and socially. The Holy Month has three distinctive qualities:
1. It has a time limit: Ramadan only lasts for 29 or 30 days, which means a controlled and timed environment with a distinct beginning and an end for anyone who wants to attempt new habits and routines.
2. It upends your daily routines: Given the demands of fasting, waking up early for pre-dawn meals (suhoor/sehri), and late-night prayers, Ramadan completely up-ends our daily routine and takes us outside our comfort zone, forcing us to re-assess our daily choices and their importance in our lives.
3. It re-connects you spiritually and socially: Ramadan is a spiritual season during which you’re encouraged to engage in extra spiritual activities like prayer and recitation of the Quran. It is also a time when families gather and old grievances are forgiven, thus boosting social bonds. This provides a unique opportunity to hit the reset button on many of our spiritual and social commitments.
Although Ramadan provides an excellent environment for personal growth, one needs to consciously engage with it in a coaching-style approach to ensure that a personal transformation does occur.
Here are three coaching questions that I encourage everyone to ask themselves at the beginning of Ramadan:
1. WHO DO I WANT TO BECOME BY THE END OF RAMADAN?
This question forces you to think with the end in mind. If you were to describe what your final transformation would look like (spiritually, physically, and socially), this will help you plan your Ramadan better. Moreover, note that the question here focuses on the “who” first and not the “what to do in Ramadan” part. That comes next.
2. WHAT ACTIVITIES WILL HELP ME BECOME THE PERSON I WANT TO BE?
This is where you start putting together a plan of the activities that will help upgrade you over 30 days. For example, if you want to be a generous person by the end of Ramadan, you might want to commit to daily giving during Ramadan; for example, through the LaunchGood Daily Ramadan Challenge. This question will help you prioritize the activities that are most important to you, given your answer to Question 1 above.
3. WHAT WILL GET IN THE WAY OF ME COMMITTING TO THE ABOVE ACTIVITIES?
This is where the rubber hits the road. You might have a great idea of who you want to be and a clear plan of what activities you're willing to commit to, but unless you think of the obstacles that might get in the way and consider how to overcome them, then you may not achieve your desired Ramadan transformation.
If you simply approach Ramadan as another annual experience with the same old Ramadan habits and routines, then it will fail to be that transformative experience for you. But if you approach Ramadan as coaching experience with clear coaching goals, a clear plan, and ways to overcome what could get in the way, then you’ll truly benefit from the power of Ramadan to upgrade your whole being each year.
Mohammed Faris is an international coach, author, and speaker who helps executives, professionals, and entrepreneurs rebalance their lives spiritually, physically and socially to achieve peak performance and live meaningful lives. He’s the founder of ProductiveMuslim.com and author of The Productive Muslim: Where Faith Meets Productivity.
(Writing by Mohammed Faris; Editing by Seban Scaria firstname.lastname@example.org)